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Apr. 21st, 2009 | 07:33 pm
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I am SO SORRY. LJ completely slipped my mind when it came to places to put my birth story!!! Anyway, here it is, if y'all are interested :D


BIRTH STORY

Afraz Alman
Born at 1248 on Friday, March 11, 2009
2.74kg, 47cm

I didn’t have a calculable due date for this birth because I only had one cycle between the kids. No reliable LMP = no exact due date (not that due dates are an exact science anyway). So anyway, whenever people asked about when I’m due, I always answered “sometime in March”. Then I remembered, there is an old wives (or should I say midwives?) tale that says that the day of a full moon is the day when most births for that month occurs. Full moon = full labor ward. So I was fully convinced that I’d give birth on the 11th…and I was right!

I started really feeling my contractions at 2.30am. For about an hour, they remained 10mins apart, and the contractions gradually got closer together. I was too excited to sleep, so I woke the maid to prepare some food to eat and to bring to the hospital, and checked (and re-checked *LOL*) my hospital bag and even went online for a bit. But at about 5.30am the contractions were 6mins apart so I figured I’d better get some rest while I can.

As I was relaxing on the bed, it occurred to me that leaving between 7am-9am would mean being stuck in traffic. So at 6am I woke Farhan up and we left the house at around 7am. By that time my contractions were about 5mins apart, so I still had a ways to go. We had planned to go to the hospital a bit later on in my labor but oh well. Better I make it there early than have the baby in the car!

In any case, they put me in triage when we arrived at the hospital, where they found I was 3cm dilated. I was admitted, spent like 5 seconds in my room and then walked to Labor & Delivery. By then it was around 8am, I believe. I did my HypnoBirth relaxation which actually lulled me to sleep! I took a nap but was (rudely) awoken at 9.30am by my OB. He did a cervical check which inadvertently broke my water.

About 15mins after that, the contractions started coming in faster and were longer and MUCH stronger. It was ridiculous how things went from 0 to 120 just like that. I did all the relaxation breathing, but just couldn’t hold on to a relaxed state long enough. I asked for an epidural at around 11am. In retrospect, I must have been in transition. I begged and begged for it, eventually yelling at Farhan to “let me get the f*ckin epidural!!”.

So, a few minutes later the anesthesiologist came in (who was annoying, but that’s another story) and administered the epidural…and it DIDN’T WORK. I repeat, it DID NOT WORK. The pain from my contractions were still very much there. I spent the next hour yelling at everyone about how “I can still feel EVERYTHING!” (although actually I didn’t feel anything from the waist down – my vajayjay and legs were numb). I was PISSED OFF. But in a way, lesson learned – epidurals can be unreliable. I’ve read about it before, but didn’t think it would happen to me! To be fair, I have to give the medical staff credit because they did their best to discourage me from getting the epidural because “it seems like you’re already fully dilated and ready to push”. I just didn’t listen.

At around noon they upped the epidural dosage. Then the contraction pain subsided. Around that time I felt “pushy” and started to push (when I mentioned to Farhan that the doctor wasn’t there yet, he was like “Meh, I’ll catch the baby if he doesn’t get here in time”). The doctor did arrive, though, around twenty minutes later. I pushed through 5-6 contractions (could’ve delivered with less, but I was exhausted by then…probably due to lack of sleep. And..uh..yelling so much *LOL*). At 12.48, with help from a vacuum to rotate his head a bit, my beautiful baby boy was born :D

He was put on my naked chest immediately, and nursed for the first time less than ten minutes later. It was a wonderful experience – way different from my last birth. Baby was with me for more than an hour after birth. I got that bonding time, I got to nurse him, I got to smell him in his natural state, and him me. It was…amazing.

In addition, the less traumatic nature of this birth meant no episiotomy :D I tore ever so little – only two stitches (compared to the episiotomy and an infinite amount of stitches the last time). I have recovered so much faster – I could walk, change, pee, everything within hours.

Baby and mommy are doing well. Breastfeeding has been a breeze!!! Again, a huge contrast from last time where I went through hell and back to be able to nurse. Even when my milk came in, I hardly noticed any engorgement thanks to Afraz being a great nurser, and Aqil gladly nursing at every opportunity. Afraz Alman has been an angel, adored by all (especially his big brother!). He is pretty easy-going – the only time he cries is sometimes when he is unswaddled and during diaper changes.

While some things have been easier to deal with as a 2nd time mom, parenting a newborn (read: middle-of-the-night feeds and diaper changes)is still taking some getting used to. I also don’t have the luxury of “sleeping when the baby sleeps” unless one of Afraz’s naps coincides with Aqil’s nap. A wise friend of mine has said to me that a mother’s love is not divided when she has 2+ children – indeed, it expands. But time, energy and attention comes in limited amounts, so its been tough dividing it between my two babies (because, at 19mos, Aqil really is just a baby still). But my eldest, my amazing, compassionate, understanding and loving son Aqil Arfan has been a FANTASTIC older brother. He kisses Afraz at every opportunity, and is the first to run to see the baby at even a mere whimper. He loves his “beppy” very much, clearly. Not much drama in the jealousy department, really. We have tandem nursed simultaneously, but 80% of the time the babies are nursed separately, which I cherish because I get one-on-one time with each.

Well, this is getting too long! I plan to write a few different stories in regards to my experience in tandem nursing, using cloth pads postpartum, cloth-diapering a newborn, etc…but we’ll see how much time I’ll actually have to actually do it!






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pour the champagne, pour the champagne

From: juliena
Date: Apr. 21st, 2009 02:15 pm (UTC)
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so precious :) congratulations again babe, your family looks perfect! <3

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adriana le délicieux

From: flutterflywild
Date: Apr. 26th, 2009 11:24 am (UTC)
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thanks babe :D

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ayuadorable

From: ayuadorable
Date: Apr. 22nd, 2009 02:12 am (UTC)
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congrats! so cuteeeee the baby <3 whuts ur id for facebook? : )

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adriana le délicieux

From: flutterflywild
Date: Apr. 26th, 2009 11:24 am (UTC)
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"adriana thani" - add me up!!

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From: syazana
Date: Apr. 22nd, 2009 03:34 am (UTC)
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i read the whole thing. eep! hehe.. but aqil sounds like the perfect older brother and afraz is just adorable!

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adriana le délicieux

From: flutterflywild
Date: Apr. 26th, 2009 11:25 am (UTC)
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ahaha...i was hoping for a non-eep reaction! but hey, that's the reality of labor :p

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Moi

From: chuchuchie
Date: Apr. 23rd, 2009 05:55 am (UTC)
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thank you for sharing that wonderful story! it made me laugh at times ^_^; sorry the epidural didn't work for you, i know that must have royally sucked :P *hugs* you are sooo lucky to have such beautiful children!! :D

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adriana le délicieux

From: flutterflywild
Date: Apr. 26th, 2009 11:51 am (UTC)
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haha..it was hard to find humor in it at the time but after, it was really funny sometimes! the epi not working was not funny at all, though :p

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